Wasn't really sure how to phrase this.
It's a bit about the everyday things like him not greeting me and not wanting to have a quick chat when we get back from work, having a hug for no real reason, or a kiss; but also about being able to have more non-sexual physical contact with dh.
We've been together nearly 25 years and seem to have let these things slip. I've mentioned some of this to DH and he responds initially but any change very quickly drops off. He can also get very defensive. He's generally of the opinion that doing housework, washing my car, being good at DIY etc, should be enough for him to show me that he cares. And the fact that we love each other should be enough for me to want to have sex (I do fancy him as well).
I'd love to be able to to give him a kiss and a hug more than we do but he almost always sees it as a green light for sex, which sometimes is ok, but when it's not he acts hurt and I end up feeling guilty.
I don't want big romantic gestures. We know we love each other, but I feel we need to show it a bit more in our day to day lives. I do try to sometimes, but because of either a negative or shocked reaction, or him thinking it's a come on, I don't do it very much. I'm not saying we have no physical contact outside of sex, but it is very limited.
Ps we have a good sex life, but I know DH would like it more often.