My boyfriend is moving in

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I am not sure if I am looking for advice or just want to share my good news! 6 years after I divorced my exH, my boyfriend of 14 months and I have taken the decision that he will move in next month. My DD is on board (she got consulted first). We've discussed money and chores and what happens if we break up and I am happy we are on the same page (no cocklodging or manchilding will be accepted).

I'm 46 and I feel 26 again. I'm delighted, a little nervous about sharing my space and not looking forward to the mechanics of trying to work out which of our joint posessions is kept and which is disposed of. However I just told my parents and my sister (we are all very close) and they were lovely about it (my mum has form for being a judgemental arse now and then!)

I guess - any advice?

"In the first 6 - 12 months he will bank the additional money he is saving on rent and bills in case he needs to move out."

Glad it is going well, but just saying - good idea that he saves that money rather than spending it for the sake of it, but strange justification that it is "in case he needs to move out" particularly - if he was not with you he'd be paying his way in full every month and also his moving/furnishing costs if he moved house, he wouldn't get given 6-12 months off rent to make it easier. That is literally just a gift of money from you to him for possible future costs, that would only be needed if you were breaking up (which is the last time you want to gift someone 6 months' rent, I'd have thought!)

Congratulations!

Swap ‘small contribution’ for ‘fair contribution’. Fairness is better for the emotional health of a relationship than the micro-resentments and power perception of one partner doing the paying.