I'm at my wits end with this abuser.
We've reached the end of family court proceedings. Despite significant findings of child and domestic abuse, the court are progressing contact for the father and DD.
DD has 8 progressive sessions of contact in the community before it is built up to unsupervised and overnights.
During the community contact we use a third party from maternal and paternal family members.
This week is a paternal family member. I advised the father via a communication app that I will handover to his family member. The father is insisting he will attend handover and I handover to him and speak to him directly. I reiterated I will handover to his family member.
I do not want to see this man. He triggers me and I just don't want it to be uncomfortable for DD. He wants to intimidate me and for me to feel like a scared woman attending the handover.
Court order does not advise he can attend handovers. Court order identifies the use of third party.
I'm trying to arrange a friend to handover for me but what do I do if I can't? I suppose i can just grey rock him and engage directly with DD and tell her to have a nice time and I'll see her later, but other than that what else can I do? He's insistent he will attend the handover. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him.