Hi everyone I just wanted to get some advice from non family members.
i am a first time mum of a beautiful 4 month old.
my relationship with my husband has been very difficult recently. He works full time and I’m doing all of the housework and childcare. I have some help at home but most of the responsibility falls with me.
Yesterday my husband came home early without informing me. I had been needing to get some skin care products from the shop and asked him if I could pop out quickly as he was home early and could look after the baby. I left some pumped breast milk for him to give her if she was hungry and the nanny was there for another 30 mins. I told him I would be an hour but came home 40 mins later ( I was away from 2:15 to 3:45) as I bumped into someone at the mall and was chatting for a bit.
i messaged him just over an hour after I had left to check if everything was okay. When I came home he told me he was surprised I suddenly needed to go to the shop and that any caring mother would have called to check that the baby had fed. I explained that I assumed he would be able to look after her to which he said no it was my duty to call. Was I in the wrong?
He has told me on many occasions that I am not being a good mother. Today I told him that ever since our daughter was born it seems as if he has been looking for evidence that I’m a bad mother. He replied saying he thinks I am paranoid for using language like ‘collecting evidence’. I’m just looking for non biased opinions as my family think he is completely wrong to speak to me like this.