We’re LC with in-laws. DH finally snapped one day as if he had a realisation of how mentally abusive they are. Before I had kept contact going to what he wanted and taken so much shit as being the evil DIL who stopped him seeing his parents. Nope, I’m just taking the flack so he can process things.
when they phone he crumples. Like voice and body language. I can hear what she’s saying. DH has a new job and is doing a course. Her reliance to this is a surprise drone, hard to describe. Like a negative you really think you can do this and then says something else Bollocks to cover it with Uber positivity.
DH tonight said he didn’t now how to take the Uber comment as that is new. It threw him more than the negative. I didn’t know how to say “your mum is a shit who always beats you dow as I used to say. I want to validate his feelings going though this. I don’t want to say it’s all ok but then I don’t want to add to it.
MILnhas wishes me dead to my face so I’ve stopped all contact apart from the occasional yes/no reply. DH didn’t hear that one and I’ve not told him as he was going through enough realisation at the time. He tells them nothing about my (fucking scary) health issues or out future plans.
I don’t know what I’m asking. Before when I used to say acknowledging my that what his mum had said was mean then he used to shout and get angry and defensive and that would make him less able to process it. He doesn’t do that now and I can see he’s trying to work through it. MIL is always dying and practically gleeful at recalling how ill she is.