I believe my boyfriend is a workaholic and it’s destroying our family. We have an 18 month old child and I’m a sahm. He’s always been a hard worker and I understand it must be a lot of pressure however it is becoming unbearable. He’s up for work between 3am and home between 8-9pm some nights even later. As you can imagine by the time he’s home he is exhausted and doesn’t want to do very much other than sit on the sofa eat dinner and go to sleep. This is now going into the weekends and it’s dull. I’m the first to support his work and believe in him very much so but I feel disconnected and sad and believe there is more to life and a relationship than this. I’ve had conversations till I’m blue in the face at how our relationship is affected. He has no sex drive, isn’t interested in me very much! He just says he puts effort in elsewhere and we value different things. He also promises he’ll put the effort in and then nothing continues to change. I think this is a cop out to be honest and upsets me to the point I’m in a state. This conversation is happening weekly if not more and we just go round in circles because he says we’ve spoken about this already and he doesn’t know what I want him to say. He said the sex drive/ effort I need is an insecurity on my part which I just don’t realise. Which I believe isn’t true. I’m confident in who I am, I go to the gym I eat healthy I go out with friends my life is perfect apart from this! I know this isn’t a me problem as he’s also sacrificing him seeing his son. I find it so incredibly sad as I love him dearly but I’m stuck in a rut where we have the same conversation and no resolution. We’re not seeing eye to eye and I know it’s time to do something about it, but I’m just not sure what:(