Hating libido loss

[Moonfishstar]

I normally have a pretty high libido... but sometimes it dips or disappears, and when it does, I really want it back! At the moment, I have a bug, and perhaps unsurprisingly it's vanished. It feels like I'm missing a limb. I'm sure it will come back when I'm feeling better.

Do others ever feel like this?... So many posts on here from people who have lost libido seem completely fine with it, and don't want it back!

I feel your pain. I have absolutely no libido at all since going through menopause.

No. I wouldn't want to lose mine permanently, but I think your response is over the top, personally. You feel like you're missing a limb just because you have temporarily lost your libido because you are ill???

OP, it's pretty normal not to think about sex when you are ill!
@TheGreatGherkin Have you tried hrt? It can really help some women restore their libido.

@Seaoftroubles

I'm on it. Doesn't help 😪

I know it's nothing to worry about, but I still really don't like it - at the moment it's zero!... and also the times my libido dips when I'm not ill.

I think if you’re bothered by not wanting sex then you haven’t actually lost your libido.

In my experience when you completely lose it you find the whole idea absolutely off putting and even repulsive - even if you’ve previously enjoyed sex / had a good libido. It’s like something inside of you just switches off completely. (And yes, I’m on HRT before someone suggests it).

But I don't want to have sex at the moment... I'm not sure I could get properly aroused even if I tried.

But I want to want it if that makes sense. I like the feeling of being horny... which is different than not being horny and being very content with it.