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Break up help

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MyCoralLurker · 22/02/2024 09:57

First time posting please be gentle.
My partner broke up with me Sunday after u years together. Packed up all his things and gone. We have a 3 year old son together and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. It's been a long time coming we've not got on for a while. Not really speaking etc. Sunday day I was fine. Monday I was OK and Tuesday it hit me bad. I've not got out of bed since. Not eaten can't sleep feel sick. I can't stop begging him to come home. I don't even know why I miss him so much as he worked alot. I love him so much we just grew to complacent and comfortable in the relationship. Neither of us making much effort. But it has given me a big wake up call. Tuesday he said we would talk he came round and chatted but not about the relationship then he left and said he won't be coming back so it gave me false hope.
I don't know how to get over this or cope, I have no friends to talk to, my mum doesn't understand. Not one person as messaged me asking how I am etc. I feel hopeless and like I'm going to do something stupid. Someone please help me

OP posts:
Bowbobobo · 22/02/2024 11:12

I'm sorry to hear this has hit you so hard OP, you sound very down and upset. Please reach out to someone in real life that you can talk to - maybe the GP, a health visitor, someone at your DC's school? Who is looking after the DC? Presumably he'll be back to take care of his son at least, but you do need to stop begging. It will only make you feel worse.

Ladymayflower · 23/02/2024 07:51

Hi OP. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through a hard time.
What are the arrangements for your child? When will he see him/her? What about the house. Is it jointly owned/rented? Can you afford it on your own? I think you are likely in shock so please go easy on yourself and try and eat and drink where you can.
It helped me in the initial stages of separation to focus on the practical stuff. Children, finances, house. It gave me comfort to know that there was a plan for these.
Make sure you get some fresh air each day. And get up, get dressed, have tea/coffee.
Sending hugs. It's so hard right now but it will get better!!

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