Frustrated because he hasn’t cum?

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Hi all,

A little bit about how it is before I go into this. Me and my partner have an almost 2 year old. I work full time from home 9 - 5:30 some days longer, I do this all whilst taking care of my little one.
I do majority chores if not all, I also pay half the rent and my OH pays the other half. However I pay all the bills and most groceries because he is in a part time job. Even if he has work a little later on in the day let’s say the afternoon he still won’t wake up and take care of our little one, I will have to do it whilst working. Maybe a day here or there he will that’s it.

Now, we haven’t slept together since Valentine’s Day so a week.. He has been so agitated, constantly huffing and puffing, sighing, getting annoyed at me and my little one. I’ve grown to really resent him, but the last few days he has really made me dislike him. For example he has been calling our little one a pain in the ass, bane of his life and saying things like “you’re annoying” whenever he has tried to get intimate with me as little one began crying. I felt disgusted hearing him say that because he is feeling horny. I never said anything back to prevent an argument but I was thinking I’m done with this shit.

He has said now he is back to playing football and more active I should have more sex with him as he needs it whereas if he was lounging around on the PlayStation then I don’t need to as he is hornier when physically active. I just brushed it off as I honestly can’t be arsed for it.

I’ve already had conversations with him telling him he doesn’t pull his weight and I don’t want to have sex with a man child and then he will do some things 1 day here and there and think he supports. He can’t even pick up or tidy up after himself.

The tenancy is in my name, please don’t tell me to get the police involved to get him out. However I do want him to leave and whenever I tell him to he never does and starts playing mind games to get me back where he wants me but I genuinely want him gone as I’ve had enough but he knows the code to the building I live in which gains entry inside as there is no fob so I’m not sure how to go about this..

Also I’m not overreacting about the comments am I?

Calling the police quietly sounds a good plan. If it is a land line they will follow it up.

Explain to him what wanking is - it'll blow his mind...

If he won’t leave. If you won’t get friends over to ‘help’ move him out. If you won’t get the police to persuade him to go. How else will you do it? You do need him out. He sounds dangerous especially the way he resents your DC.

Could you phone Womens Aid or the police and ask for advice as a starting point?

OP when you said in your first post that you didn't want to involve the police, was that because of how he physically threatened you last time?

This man sounds dangerous to you and your baby. Can you try to contact womens aid today? They can give advice on how to get him out, safely, but I do think you may well need police involvement. That's not a bad thing, as they can also advise on making sure he stays away from you and possibly changing the door code so he can't gain access to the building.

If you can't phone womens aid, they have a live chat function and an email, details are here
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

Good luck OP, you and your baby deserve safety and happiness.

What were you calling 999 about?

This is more of a reason to get them involved, not less of one, but you just need to do it carefully to protect yourself.

We are nearly at the end of the month, when is your rent due? Tell him you don’t want his half and ask him to leave.

Who is your landlord? Can you tell your partner that the landlord has been aware that from next month the occupants are just you and DS?

Where do you think he will go? Did he move from parents to you?

100 perfect bet this man is shit in bed too. You can tell 😅

Tell him you are done and finish the relationship. He's being absolutely nothing to your table.

Wait for him to go out. Change the locks, put his shit outside and text him that’s it’s over and his shit it outside.

Find an excuse to go out and take your baby. Then ring the police and tell then that he's abusive and refusing to leave and that you're scared. Tell them that he threatened to punch you in the face last time you tried to get their help. Then stay away until they turn up and turf him out.