How to approach this conversation

[EskimoPie182]

So, I just want some advice on how to broach this subject with my partner. We have recently moved in together and his 23 year old daughter also live with us. She is lovely but very dependent on him and takes over every conversation we have when it is the 3 of us. My partner is used to this but i am finding it hard. Sometimes when we are together he spends a lot of time texting her. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that the occasional times we have the house to ourselves that he doesn't spend the time texting her? We have had words about it before and it often ends up in bad feeling which I don't want. Just not sure how to approach it with him. Any advice welcome!

I hope all expenses are split 3 ways for starters...

I wonder why you moved in before these issues were addressed?

So she takes over conversations when she's there and when she's not there he texts her all the time.

Sounds rather weird. What reasons does he give for his behaviour ie the texting and the allowing her to take over?

I would move out!

Also, have you moved into a house they had together?

Nope, we bought together a few months ago, and she does pay her way

Tmi but how do intimate moments happen with such an enmeshed relationship? Would find it hard to get into The Zone tbh..

@Chamomileteaplease It's not all the time tbf, I don't know if I'm too sensitive about it but it does bother me when he's distracted. I think he doesn't want to feel he is not there for her as she has been very needy in the past.

There are 3 of you in that relationship….

@Galeforcewindatmywindow We tend to go away for time on our own.

That's ridiculous.. Does the dd not have friends? Bf?

You go away from your own house to have sex? This is mad

A couple of freinds but she like being at home a lot, no bf unfortunately.

@MiltonNorthern Not all the time, we can come upstairs too :)