Just feeling shit .. pain of a failed relationship, not linear

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I was besotted with a guy who described our relationship as serious and committed. He was separated when and ended the relationship because he found his divorce quite brutal. This was last April. We saw each other on and off until June. When he said his head was all over the place with the impending divorce which would financially ruin him. Come October his divorce was still on going but I found him on a dating app and spoke to him. He denied it and then said it wasn't for a relationship and he could barely sleep he was going through so much, he sent me a message to say how important I was in his life and would treasure our time. 3 weekslater he posts a picture on Instagram of him and a woman, they looked like friends. He has posted a few photos. I deleted his account but on Facebook it didn't seem to work and more pictures came through. I just feel shit. I thought he would come back to me, but actually I was nothing. He had a horrible divorce, numerous affairs while married but had apparently turned a new leaf when he met me . It stings so much that I was replaced so easily and that he has no sensitivity in posting pictures. I thought I was getting over him then wham, it's not linear.

Oh op what on earth are you doing.

In what way did this guy sound remotely like a good investment to like?

He even told you he cheated on his wife, lots!

And was seeing you before the supposed divorce.

And I'm sorry but 'you're so important, I treasure our time' whilst he's literally still married AND on a dating site. The guy Iis a sleeeeeeeze. He's super sleaze. He's king sleaze with a side order of sleaze balls.

Block him on everything and stop dating fake, cheating love rats. Stop falling for love bombing bullshit. And stop dating entirely until you've spent time reading up how to spot these sort and more importantly, done self work towards loving yourself. Because if you did love you, this guy wouldn't have made it to a second date!

It's not complicated op. He is just playing you. Like a fiddle. Block and delete.

Ps: big red flag when they are talking about their ex trying to take all their money. Yes because how dare she want her legal share of money from the marriage. A marriage that he also, was a shit husband in but unfortunately she won't get extra for pain and suffering.

He told you clearly he doesn't like women with this attitude. Guess what, if you're woman then that includes you!

I'd also not be surprised if he isn't divorcing. And his wife still thinks they are together. And you were just other women number four hundred and thirty six.

What Pinkbonbon said.

Hes a sleazy lying love bombing gaslighting cheating piece of shit. Honestly the Chinese Communist Party has less red flags than this twat. I guarantee you he had several other women on the go at same time as you spinning them all the same bollox.

Thank your lucky stars you’re free from this creep and stay single for a while until you’ve learned to love yourself enough not to tolerate a lying bullshitter.

@Pinkbonbon thank you, thank you. I should say, he had been separated when we met for over 2 years and we met through friends. But that aside all you say I need to hear.
I feel shit because I believed him, my nature is to believe people.
I don't know how to work on myself sometimes I feel just brilliant and strong and other times like today just shit. I sort of feel replaced, as though all we had together was something made up.

@SamW98 thank you. I do so much iny life and have so many friends but I just feel as though I can't find love and be happy in that sense. Your comments are what I need to hear.