Hi I’m feeling a bit upset and stressed.
my mother seems to have a constant issue with my husband for some unknown reason.
we got together when we were teenagers and I feel she judged him from the start as he is quite confident and she’s very introvert etc
everytime the conversation naturally goes to talking about him there is always this horrible feeling where she tries almost put me and my husband against eachother. Like she’ll blank things I say about him even if they are really lovely things he’s done for me or our baby and generally I just dread our conversations as I feel I have to be so careful not to talk about him as there’s always a almost jealous feeling which is weird but that’s the only way I can explain it.
she will often not say anything if he’s name naturally comes up but if she can’t get away with that she will say extremely minimal or more often than not use a diversion technique even to the point she will say “ow” as if she’s stubbed her toe or something even though it seems to be a constant pattern.
even when we got engaged at Easter after waiting about ten years to have the money etc she was more bothered about Putting her dinner on.
He is always so nice and approachable with her and really tries his best but it’s like she just always has to have a problem and can never give him credit.
i feel bad ending the contact but even though my husband is cool with me keeping the contact I just feel bad against him and my daughter. I think I feel this so much because he’s really tried and I think he would like to have been part of their family as he hasn’t any family of his own as his parents are older siblings mistreated him.
feel torn with my emotions and don’t know if my daughter should be involved with my mother or not.