I think we might be broken- please give me your positive stories of single motherhood

[Blendedfamilystruggle]

I have been struggling with lots of aspects of our family life for a while now and tonight something happened involving my DSS12 that may have been the final straw for me. DP and I have had a huge argument as a result and I don't know how we can come back from this. I think we're done but I'm terrified of the impact that splitting will have on the two children that we have together.

Please give me your positive (and negative) experiences of splitting with the father of your children, particularly when it is not likely to be amicable and you don't feel entirely comfortable leaving the children in his care without you. How did you navigate it?

He does see them, but they have no real bond with him because he goes missing for months at a time and they are starting to see who he is now and are ot wanting to go anymore.
It started as bits of criticisms for me, him creating arguments from nothing and it gradually got worse over time. He pushed me over when I was in early pregnancy, was smashing up wedding photos by the time our first baby was two months old... Then it escalated when second child born where I did wonder if I would survive it.

All I can say is, if the signs are there that he disrespects you, get out of you can before it gets worse. I took had that same feeling, of going to visit my mum and feeling so calm and at peace, then even on the drive home I'd start feeling tense knowing what lay ahead.

Feel free to message me anytime as I may have various links and shortcuts to save you from Time and research. Best of luck to you lass x