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My ex's ex - am i really boring!!!

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LadybirdHere · 20/02/2024 20:10

I shall preface this by saying my boyfriend is a lovely bloke but had a bit of a wilder past involving partying/drugs etc and his background. I am the absolute total opposite, i dont drink or have ever smoked. Im a parent and pretty solvent/stable. We have a good time together and i think on some minor level, he likes that im very stable as his family certainly arent.

But i cant get over the fact that I found out he used to date a very bohemian type and i unfortunately googled her and shes a real party person. No kids, pretty wild type, an actress so attractive too. They used to take recreational drugs together as did a couple of his exes. His comments were that they were a bit crazy. Im the first parent he has ever dated.

I just feel so boring in comparison - like a tired mum! Can someone shake sense into me. Who knows whether the relationship will last but i hate that i feel a bit shit about this. That i dont take drugs or drink or smoke, that i have a saggy mum tum and boobs.

OP posts:
LadybirdHere · 13/04/2024 21:42

Thanks @PaintedEgg, got sidetracked and forgot about this thread. Thanks to people who knocked some sense into me and what I'm bringing to the table here. Unfortunately had someone he knows recently pass (again drugs). I'm the epitome of stability really but can't see sometimes how anyone can like that when they are used to such crazy lives. But the advice here has really helped

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MandyJane1 · 30/04/2024 21:23

I often feel this way. My bf has led an extremely wild life (drugs, wild parties, very bohemian). I have not. I'm Miss Sensible. He thinks underneath he is sensible and underneath me, I'm wild! I always wonder what he sees in me though. Opposite attract I guess!

Loopylooni · 12/06/2024 06:53

Agree, I feel this with my partner but seems to work

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