How can I dismiss this fear?

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In a nutshell, I'm 40 and have met someone I could really stand still with, and for the first time in my life tbh!
Anyway, my first ever DP (and first sex, I was 19/20) told me, after over a year, that he just couldn't love me or see himself ever falling for me...
FF to adult life and I've come to realise this notion has really damaged my way(s) of thinking about relationships, as I assume no-body will ever feel this way about/for me... my past relationship history is appalling :(
Anyway, me and current DP were talking cpl weeks ago and he basically said he could see himself 'falling in love with' me (he is also 40, only ever had 1 relationship that only lasted 2 months) At this time I decided to confess to him that I do love him (we're 4 and a bit months in)...
I'm terrified he won't 'get there', just because I feel like I am unlovable and have severe insecurities around this (& the reason I've only ever felt good enough for sex with guys, as surely, they will not fall for me) :(

As I have now met a truly genuine, kind, honest man (yep, for the first time in my life!) I want to eradicate this constant insecurity of the thought he will never feel the same, help! 😖

Oh dear, you need to do some work on yourself, he wouldn't have said he could see himself falling in love with you if he didn't mean it and you are unwittingly going to push him away. Stop doing that, don't base him on past relationships, they're gone, done and dusted and put some self-love into your life, the most attractive thing to a man is confidence, you need more of that, you can get lots of self help books but for now, just relax, don't think about the future, just enjoy the here and now and enjoy.

Live in the moment for now, it's not a race to forever, things like that can take a couple of years to evolve into long term so no need to obsess about that, just enjoy the now.

Thanks guys and I echo what you both say - 'Live in the moment...' 😌 I am a long-term GAD sufferer and this pours over into relationship-anxiety too, and again, all because I don't believe anybody will ever fall in love with me 😖🥺😣 I do believe I am worthy of it, but just think I'm not lucky or special enough 😢🥺😣