AIBU? DP cancelling weekend away

[Natni]

DP and I had arranged to go away over Easter hols for 3 nights.
We both have kids. I'd arranged for my DC to be with their dad and put in for annual leave at work.
DP has just told me he's to cancel our plans as his DCs mother wants him to look after his kids the same weekend as she wants to go away with friends. He wasn't due to have his DC overnight that weekend (was only supposed to be with them during the day).
I feel pretty annoyed.
Why does his exs social life take precedence over ours??

To be fair, you also got your ex to take his children so you could prioritise your (love) life. They'd both be pretty shit fathers if they'd said no to seeing their children because they didn't want to help out their exes.

These things happen when there are children on all sides. If you want to be the only priority in your partner's life, then you need a partner who doesn't have any other priorities.

he has his kids of one weekend afternoon? a week or eow?

how has the relationship been in recent weeks?

No, where did I say that? Several times a week.

and teen kids just come for a weekend afternoon?

Yep, my DC are with me about 85% of their time. It's OK for me to have a life too.

No several times a week...not just weekends

yes but does he generally just have his teen kids for a weekend afternoon? seems an unusual arrangement!

ie not overnight on the weekend?

and how as the relationship been recently??

In itself I would not view this as a hillnto die on. However, it needs to be seen in the context of the entire relationship. Do you feel that he is generally dismissive of your needs and feelings?

Exactly. Neither of you are wrong for wanting to have a life. And the only other people responsible for those children are their other parents. Which is why your DP is having his children this weekend. It is just unfortunate timing. Can you go away by yourself at least? Or take a friend or sibling? There is no need for you to stay home.