Am I a terrible friend?

[Ratherstandonacliffandsetfiretomyself]

Friend of 35 years had an operation on Friday last week (not too major and been on waiting list a long time, NHS but cosmetic). She did tell me a few weeks ago the date and at the time I sent a Moonpig wishing her luck with a little present attached.

Work has been utterly relentless the past few weeks for me and has literally taken over my life, along with supporting another friend being sectioned and in hospital who has no family around. I’ve come away on holiday yesterday and today I’ve had some peace and headspace so went to send a message wishing her luck (was convinced it was this week!) and obviously I’ve missed it.

I’ve now apologised profusely and asked how it went etc. she said it’s totally fine and not to worry but I now feel totally crap for not remembering and checking in. BUT I am also a little put out that she didn’t let me know she was ok (and there were complications) as we’ve been friends forever and I thought still close. I’ve had many surgeries over the years (cosmetic and non) and always kept friends and family in the loop.

You remembered now, she says it's fine. Don't give it any more thought.

She probably didn't message you because she thought you had forgotten about it/were too busy to think about it.

I wouldn't worry about it