Someone send me some bloody strength. Having to share a child with a narcissistic ex is just so hard, I’m struggling to stop him poisoning my household.

[Rainbow03]

The way he re-writes history to take absolutely zero responsibility is ridiculous, they really are something. It doesn’t matter what you say it gets twisted.

Im worried about our daughter. He tells he so much she doesn’t need to hear and I know she struggles to comprehend it as she is only 8. Yes I find it personally hurtful as they are outright lies but by correcting his story to her only confuses her more. He has poisoned her against my partner who she used to have a lovely little relationship with. It’s affected our relationship together, I try so hard to not let it.

We both should know that she is the most important person and we need to keep her life as settled as possible as she has been through enough.

Their desperate need to come out squeaky clean is so damaging. I said to out daughter when he talks about mummy to just say I love you both and talking like this makes me sad but she has said she is too scared to say that to him.

I dont know what I’m looking for by writing this I’m just so flabbergasted at the levels they will go to. I should know really.

I'm sorry you're going through this awful situation. The father of my DCs has narcissistic traits and behaved in a similar way after we split. With the benefit of hindsight, I would have looked for a way to cut contact with him, including his contact with the DCs, because his toxic behaviours had a devastating impact on all of us but especially DD's MH. Of course if I had done that, there could well have been other issues eg resentment on the part of the DCs about being cut off from their other parent.

@Turkeyhen I did cut contact and it went through the court for years. But contact resumed unfortunately. I’m so worried about my little girl. The things he says to her in his bid to dirty my name is so sad. She is too afraid to tell him it upsets her to hear it all. She understands that if she doesn’t give him what he needs he can withdraw everything he lavishes on her.