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Is this ok

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mas1822081512 · 18/02/2024 22:43

I’ll try and keep this short just want some other opinions please .
Have been married almost 20 years, we have 3 kids between 6 and 16. My other half has always gone out a lot . His “ nights out” usually start from 3 o’clock in the afternoon until the early hours of the next morning . He will then stay in bed all day literally all day getting up after the kids have gone to bed . He will then say to me do I want to watch a film ect usually by this time I’m too annoyed as would have been doing everything by myself all day which causes an argument . It’s then not unusual for him to spend Monday off work and in bed still unwell from his night out . This usually happens at least once every 4/5 weeks .
just to add if I ever try and go out always an issue.
is this ok ?
he just says I’m jealous and have no friends . I say if we both acted as he does who would have the kids ??? We don’t have people who can babysit either which makes it hard .
thank you for reading

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LoseMeLikeAnArrow · 18/02/2024 22:46

Absolutely not OK. He is taking 3 days away from family life whilst you carry the load, then he prevents you from going out and insults you? It will never be OK. Time to consider why you are with him? Sorry, OP x

Tarquina · 18/02/2024 22:53

Why have you put up with such blatant inequality in your marriage for the past 20 years?

determinedtomakethiswork · 18/02/2024 23:02

So he's going out for a drink takes up 30 hours or so? Why the hell are you putting up with that shit?

mas1822081512 · 18/02/2024 23:06

Yes basically but he can’t see why it’s an issue . I don’t think it’s normal especially as we are now in our 40s ! It’s obvious he can’t handle it if he needs all that time recover . He can’t see why it’s selfish . We are lucky if he spends 2 hours with us without moaning . 😔

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determinedtomakethiswork · 18/02/2024 23:11

Is there a point to living with him? Does he bring you any joy at all?

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