I want to start by saying My husband is a fantastic husband and father, he works incredibly hard (through choice not necessity, he is very career driven) and he’s out of the house most days from 6am - 7pm and on the weekends he quite often ends up having to do some form of work. We live in the town he grew up in and where all his friends live and is near to his work. I work in the next town over which is also where I grew up and near my mum. We have two DSs together who are 11 and 6.
Now this is where my feelings start - I want a third child, he’s always known I want 3 children and always played along that he felt the same way, he’s never said he doesn’t want a third child but he just keeps saying now isn’t the right time and delaying it, he knew I wanted a smaller age gap than I had with my first two but now the age gap will be even bigger if we do have another. I feel like he’s just delaying it in the hope that one day I will turn around and say that I’m too old to have another baby and therefore he doesn’t have to actually face up to me that he doesn’t want another one.
secondly, I don’t like where we live. He’s known this for years, we’ve lived in this town for 15 years together and I’ve told him constantly that I want to move away. He won’t consider it and doesn’t discuss it he just gets grumpy because it’s near his mum and his work.
As I said at the start he is a fantastic husband and father but I think he just burries his head in the sand with anything I want with my life and carries on with what he is happy with.
I just don’t know what to do as I find myself constantly googling about third children and looking at houses and then just making myself miserable or angry!