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Parter texting escorts

18 replies

Rosanda · 18/02/2024 22:02

Hi all, I really could use some advise…. I have been with my partner for 20 years, since we were both very young. We have 2 kids tigger re and when I was 39 weeks pregnant (expecting the second one) I found out my partner had been texting escorts. I confronted him and he said that he did it due to his depression and only when he was doing drugs but that he never met with any of them. Fast forward, I gave birth and things seemed to be improving but a couple of days ago I found out he has been doing drugs again

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GreyCarpet · 18/02/2024 22:51

I think you know you need to end this.

MarmiteChocolate · 18/02/2024 22:58

Do you want a partner who texts escorts and does drugs?

Escorts don't provide a free wankchat text service, they are booking their clients pronto, so it is likely that your DP has taken that step.

Is a father that does drugs and uses sex workers a healthy role model for your DC?

I think you know the answer....

TealSapphire · 19/02/2024 00:00

Exactly, the amount of men who text escorts claiming they were never going to meet up is ridiculous. Of course he was planning to or most likely has done. You need this cretin gone from your children's home.

Northernsouloldies · 19/02/2024 00:59

And a wild guess.. Its coke he's taking.

Shoxfordian · 19/02/2024 05:33

Take some steps to leave him, can you stay with family? None of this is ok

ZekeZeke · 19/02/2024 07:02

Get An STI test.
Kick him out, you deserve so much more.
Don't listen to excuses, you've already given him a chance

bottomsup12 · 19/02/2024 07:55

Oh lawd the man has no self control. Just think, what kind of mind frame would YOU have to be in to take drugs and text other men sexually while leaving him with the kids ?

You would be a total arsehole and you probably would never even consider doing this.

He has no respect for you- leave

Hailstorm84 · 19/02/2024 12:23

First of all I'm very sorry you are having to deal with this. I'm also currently dealing with a similar situation, I found out 10 months ago (while heavily pregnant) my husband emailed an escort back in 2021 a month after I miscarried. Secondly if you're anything like me you'll get annoyed at the advice from some on here telling you to "leave him" like it's that simple. What you really need is a shoulder to cry on and some support whilst you navigate this situation. You can talk to me if you need to.

rosewain24 · 19/02/2024 12:28

I am so sorry you are going through this but you should not stay with him. He does not sound mature enough to be a father.

goldleg · 19/02/2024 12:40

Rosanda · 18/02/2024 22:02

Hi all, I really could use some advise…. I have been with my partner for 20 years, since we were both very young. We have 2 kids tigger re and when I was 39 weeks pregnant (expecting the second one) I found out my partner had been texting escorts. I confronted him and he said that he did it due to his depression and only when he was doing drugs but that he never met with any of them. Fast forward, I gave birth and things seemed to be improving but a couple of days ago I found out he has been doing drugs again

They always say they are depressed. It's rubbish just absolute bullshit.
You're depressed now he s doing this again.
I'm not sure what happened to what they used to call gentleman.
They all seem pathetic these days and I don't think the internet has helped one bit.

goldleg · 19/02/2024 12:45

Sorry also you going through this as my oh has messed me about before and I am a changed person from it. I feel broken and the person I was is gone😰
I am very sad for you but you need to get strong and leave.
I stayed as too weak and it was a different betrayal to you but he lied so easily it was shocking.
My rock my soulmate my best friend just a lying scum bag that I'm too weak to leave. I pretend I am ok now and sometimes happy but a changed person, a shadow of who I used to be, sometimes I have felt dead inside.
People shock you in this life but please don't stay with him as you deserve so much better. He's pathetic

GreyCarpet · 19/02/2024 12:49

No one isnsaying its easy to leave but life would be a damn sight better if she's not in a relationship with a drug using punter.

goldleg · 19/02/2024 12:52

Agreed. Drugs and escorts two things in your world now which you don't need

Hailstorm84 · 19/02/2024 12:53

Better yes but not simple. People need support in these times not just told to leave.

Redglitter · 19/02/2024 12:55

How do escorts make money I wonder because it seems every man who contacts them never actually meets them 🙄

OP you know he's lying about the escorts and now he's doing drugs. He sounds like a real catch.

You're worth more

rosewain24 · 19/02/2024 13:47

You don't deserve to be treated like this. Leave him before things get worse.

goldleg · 19/02/2024 13:49

Hailstorm84 · 19/02/2024 12:53

Better yes but not simple. People need support in these times not just told to leave.

Yeah true what you are saying but difficult for us posters to give more practical support so just our thoughts and own experiences which maybe isn't much help.
Hope something we say resonates with op and gives her strength.

goldleg · 19/02/2024 13:51

As another poster just said it is easier said than done when we say leave!
It comes from a good supportive place but maybe not that helpful?

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