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Struggling to see how I’ll get over this?

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Lookingforluck · 18/02/2024 07:28

Yesterday evening, I ended up at A&E with my 22 month old daughter. We were at a friend’s house when she fell down their stairs. A flight of about 12 steps. I keep seeing it in my head and it makes me feel so sick. DH had taken her upstairs to change her nappy but then left her unattended at the top as he decided to put something away in bags. I was in the kitchen downstairs when I suddenly heard her fall. I saw the whole thing. Thankfully she didn’t hit her head and she was running around A&E last night before we saw a doctor to confirm she was ok. We will obviously keep a close eye on her. I slept in her room last night, although there was very little sleeping had by me. I just feel so sick thinking about how different the outcome of that fall could have been. More to the point, I feel so angry at my DH. Pure rage. He was so negligent and I just don’t see how I can ever forgive him. Accidents happen but right now, I cannot see that this way. He was totally negligent and put our daughter at risk. Is this rage unjustified? How do I deal with it?

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Stressedoutforever · 18/02/2024 13:37

Dh dropped our second at (I think) 2 months old.. I'd left him for the first ever time to get my hair done to have him phone me in a panic. Dh is a totally unflappable senior paramedic and I'd never heard him like that. We took him to the hospital and he was fine.

I've never been angry at DH for it, I was pissed off I got charged for my hair that never got done (not to his face!) but it was a total accident and he was so angry and upset with himself. In fact I told him more than once to stop punishing himself and he has said that it was the biggest mistake of life and he will never forget it.

You need to let it go, he'll be feeling bad enough and your DD is fine. Give him a hug and move on

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