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Moving back in with Parent

4 replies

BoyMumma18 · 17/02/2024 23:08

Hi all.
I'm in a bit of a situation and looking for some guidance!
My husband and I private rent at the moment but our LL is having to move back into the house so we have to leave. The problem is rent prices are sky high now so we can't afford to private rent again, we're on the council/social housing lists but they've all said it'd be at least 10-12 months before offering anything unless we lived in a hostel but we're absolutely not willing to do that as we have a little one and a dog. So we're having to move back in with my Dad for at least 1 year as buying a house isn't an option for us. I'm incredibly worried about how this will affect us, we live very differently to my Dad so there will be a lot of adjusting, I feel like our parenting will change (to an extent) as we'll have much less space, our routine will be quite different etc. I'm feeling like we've failed our son by not being able to provide a steady home and it's really affecting my mental health. My Dad is quite an 'opinionated' person and old school in lots of ways and I feel this will have an impact on every day living for us. I don't want to come across as rude by putting boundaries in place as we're already going to be hugely inconveniencing him by moving in. Any advice or guidance/tips hugely appreciated.

OP posts:
CadyEastman · 17/02/2024 23:11

I would think very carefully about doing this. I don't think your DF's behaviour will be the biggest problem, although I can see that it could be very difficult.

I think the bigger problem is that you may just never get offered a new home of you're housed already.

Pumpkinpie1 · 17/02/2024 23:49

It’s your dads home so ultimately it’s his rules.
I do think moving in could lower you on council list as you are effectively homed - check this before moving in

WithIcePlease · 17/02/2024 23:52

My first thought to was that your priority for housing would drop disappear

Aquamarine1029 · 17/02/2024 23:53

How old is your son? Would it be possible for you and your husband and child to use two rooms in your dad's home as your living space? One room as a bedroom and the other as a playroom/lounge?

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