Hi ladies,
I need to rant cause I feel completely furious and don't know who to speak to.
Married 5 years. 2 children 1 and 3.
Husband is self employed trade man and it's really not going well. To the point he sat on his ass for 3 whole weeks and didn't bring a penny into the house. I told him he needs to get a full time employed job cause it's not fair on everyone bailing us out. He lost his job back in October and joined forces with his pal and having been doing construction based work together. I work full time from home with the kids with me and they go to nursery a few times a week.
He's hardly had any work since October my parents have been paying for absolutely everything. My bills and some of my rent. I make enough money to cover nursery and car etc but that's literally about it. I applied for some jobs for him and he got the job! Waiting on a start date etc. I said to him if you don't get a proper job we are done, he needs to face reality that it is working being self employed especially sitting on his ass doing nothing.
I started to resent him.
I do everything in the house literally every thing. Washing, cooking, washing up, hoovering cleaning. Taking kids to nursery, bath time dinner time. Wake up early EVERY DAY. All whilst working. I feel like a single parent. I have said to him to sort it out cause it's not fair I mentally drained and if things don't change we might as well split cause I am doing everybring anyway so wouldn't make a difference being on my own.
Last two weeks he managed to get some work and has been working all day and until like 7pm.
Last night he messaged me at 6:30 saying on my way home. 3 hours past nothing. I rung him more times than I can count messaged him etc and nothing. We had NO food in the house the kids had scraps for dinner cause we had nothing.
Got to 10pm he rung me pissed saying he was at the pub and it's no big deal.
I kicked off I'm not having it. Years ago he used to do this to me every week when I was pregnant with my first which continued for over a year.
I said f you, don't bother coming he. Post my car keys in the door and stay away cause I am not putting up with it. (He took my keys to work by accident)
He tried coming into the house at 11 I had the chain on so he went back out. Woke up this morning and he was on the sofa can in via the back door.
And when I say he's been horrible I mean he's been horrible. Hanging out his ass. NO help with the kids, laid up the sofa or in bed all day. Hasn't communicated with the kids all day but had the audacity to say to my 3 year old daddy's moving out cause mummy don't love me.
Honestly I am at breaking point, I feel like Im an absolute mug, I do everything, I work all the time yet have the kids no help and he treats me like this.
This evening I was looking frantically for my poorly 1 year olds dummy and he wouldn't even help me as it's "my issue"
He needs to grow the hell up!!
Sorry to rant I just cannot take it anymore feel like I've been stuck in a rut for 13 years.