Ex / child’s father being nice to me?

[Tiny542]

The break up was pretty bad - ex hasn’t apologised or taken any accountability what so ever! I mean, we will never know truly why he is being nice to me now and how long it will last but I’m confused!

He takes hours to respond to text messages (we only text about our children) but when he talks on the phone or sees me face to face he seems really friendly…In your experience why do men do this do you think?

child support payment has come back and he’s due to pay next month - he wasn’t happy about this at first and I thought world war 3 would start after the amount I am entitled to came back higher than I was expecting yesterday but no reaction? No argument? No nothing from him.. he’s just being friendly / nice?

He’s met someone else and feels smugly superior now?!

I did think this… who knows! Just so odd - I am pregnant with our second child I would hope this isn’t the case it’ll upset me so much! 😮‍💨 he has not acknowledged the baby until recently (still very much unbothered) …but last few days asking about scans and if he is able to come to them - head is scrambled , I need to get a grip and move on but it’s so hard!

Ah, ok… sorry that he left when you are pregnant, what a twat.

is it possible that mum/brother/best friend have given him a stiff talking to if he admitted he had been crap about the pregnancy so far?

Did you post the other day to say he had bought you flowers?

He did - He bought me flowers for Valentine’s Day but stated it was from our toddler

Oh ok just noticed you are posting a lot about him do you want to get back with him?

Maybe he just needs to pretend to himself that he's not an utter twat for leaving his pregnant wife? Doesn't mean he's suddenly morphed into a better person, remember why you split in the first place.

Honestly Lilbus, I’m posting so much as I haven’t really got anyone else to talk to. I feel incredibly lonely especially when DD is not here and with him for the day! I’ve spoken to midwives etc but they can only offer talking therapy and I don’t feel comfortable with that.

I’m not sure what I want..I do want him back, I love him! 5 years together and he’s just upped and left just like that. What has happened has hurt me so much! I’ve never felt like this before. Again, he’s not apologised or taken any sort of responsibility/ accountability.. it’s most probably not a good idea to get back with him as nothing has changed / he doesn’t see how much he’s hurt me plus I don’t even think that’s what he wants anyway.

I am a mess, it’s been 3/4 months and I am trying to work on myself etc but I just cannot get out of this rut :-(

Hmm.. I doubt it! He wouldn’t admit he’s been crap because he honestly doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong. His behaviour is odd, strange and confusing. I’ve never known anyone to be like him!