telling the wife about an affair

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this will divide opinion but if you knew about an ongoing affair would you tell the wife of the man. there is no doubt it is going on and i am mates with the woman involved

Stay out of it

Yeah well, happens all the time or are you going to try to police everyone's relationships.

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Stay out of it. Nobody involved will thank you for your input. Why do you want to get mixed up with this? What do you want to achieve and who will benefit from knowing?

I wouldn't tell the wife, but I also wouldn't want to be the OW's friend any more. I'd just completely back off from the whole mess.

I would always always always tell. And I would always always alway want to know. If I’m making decisions about my life and my future I would want to do so with full and complete knowledge of the facts. By not telling you’re protecting and condoning a cheater and why would you do that?

Type up a letter and put through the door.

I would want to know but IME you telling the wife will have repercussions for you.

I would tell my friend but try and do it anonymously so it doesn’t come back on you.

I know someone who is still shunned by family members 15 years later because she revealed the man’s affair thinking she was doing the right thing.

My friend hasn’t spoken to me for 5 years because her DP messaged me on a dating site telling me how much he fancied me and wanted to be with me.

So morally it’s the right thing to do but ultimately it’s not your circus and I would tread carefully.

You would be a bit of a hypocrite if you then stayed friends with the ow.

Unless you know the wife stay out of it.

Honestly, if some random woman told me my husband was having an affair I'd probably wonder what her problem is. My life isn't someone else's soap opera.

Why not confront your friend instead?

Unless there is apossibility of your friend finding out that you knew I would not tell her. Keep your nose out of their marriage. You don't know what spin the husband will put on it or how your friend will react. It could be that she decides to try and salvage her marriage at the cost of your friendship

Tell the wife. I would be any to know