Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Do I hang in there ?

2 replies

gurnerandoooch · 16/02/2024 00:19

Aibu 6 months ago I matched with a guy in line and we really got along , he's the first bloke in 5 years I actually fancied .

We had a date - he lives abkut 2 hours away and came and stayed at a local b&b to meet me . We got on really really well . He asked me to stay the night with him but I didn't and went home . We continued to text - he said he really liked me and fancied me but said the distance was an issue so I left it . I didn't block him and he didn't block me .

We messaged a bit over next few months - just as friends . He then said he had found someone locally and was giving it a go . I left it at that .

I signed up to hinge dating last week and he matched with me .

I messaged asking if he meant to - he said yes of course .

I said you have my number - you could have just messaged ! He said the local girl hadn't worked out . Had issues . He said he didn't dare message me as didn't know what I was doing .

I really really like him . He's absolutely gorgeous looking . But I've stayed cool . He said he feels quite damaged from his last long term relationship. I said no problem- we can just stay in touch as friends .

I don't mind being in touch . I've been single way longer than him . He seems conflicted and confused but he also seems quite decent .

I'm actually at a point I'm absolutely happy alone . I've a great
Social life , going away with a friend in April and again in September and I'm truly ok single .
I have an amazing job which I love and I have loads of freedom in . I choose my hours. I'm well paid . I don't really want for anything.

Would you remain in touch with the bloke ?
If he decides he wants to try a relationship should I ? I do really like him and he's the only bloke I've fancied online in 5 years! I'm ok if it does t progress. I don't mind sporadic contact as friends .

Opinions please ?

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 16/02/2024 06:50

He doesn’t sound very damaged to me. He’s chasing you, plus he had at least one other girl you know of.
Id bar him and enjoy your life.

TwylaSands · 16/02/2024 06:55

He said the local girl hadn't worked out. Had issues

He said he feels quite damaged from his last long term relationship

He seems conflicted and confused

i dont know why you would want to keep him.

he clearly met you for sex and then decided two hours wasn't worth it for no sex. And two hour distance means it is going nowhere anyway.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread