So last year these women were part of a few couples I invited to my house for an evening of dinks and chat, ( we all live within a few streets away) was my birthday a few weeks later and another ladies a few days afterwards. It was said we should all go out for cocktails in town to celebrate both birthdays. My birthday arrived, nothing from any of them,the other ladies birthday arrived and I dropped off a card a very small gift. She texted thanks a day or two later . No offer of coming out for cocktails. So this year same thing, at a Christmas do mention of we must all go out for cocktails. All agreed on a particular date. My birthday arrived one of the bunch dropped off a card, which was lovely and I thanked her by text. Nothing from the others. Other ladies birthday arrived and I think, will send a message instead, maybe she doesn't do cards? She messages back her thanks for the best wishes and that's that . So looks like no night out with cocktails again. What am I doing wrong. Do you think I'm expected to round them all up to go? I think they all go out often ( without me) so maybe I'm just not part of their clique. Feel a bit deflated. Think maybe this really isn't worth the hassle and I should just stop trying to include them in things. What do the wise Mumsneters think?
Thanks. Nb I have babysitter for the night booked so might just go on my own anyway.