Feel guilty putting myself first

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Hi so I have been seeing this guy since December and of course everything’ was great at the start and then he told me he is unsure about what he wants in life and wants to move country. I was taking back by this but I have continued to see him. We don’t go out on dates we just hang at his on the weekends. he hit me with the statement yesterday that he partly wants to move because he has no friends here?

I found out from another friend instead of him that he was heading on holiday next week and had another trip planned within a few months. I’ve asked him to go and do different activities ect but nothing ever comes of it and he never asked to see me on Valentine’s Day ect he only sent a text to say ‘I should of invited you over’ but a friend of mine has asked me to go with her on Friday night to an event which I accepted as I think it sounds fun but as I usually hang with him on a Friday I’m now feeling guilty and I don’t know why? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Try to never feel guilty about putting urself first. If U don't feel happy in urself, U LL never be able to make others happy.xx🤗🤗🤗

You've been together maximum of 3 months. This is way too early to feel responsible for his happiness and social life.
Personally, I would be a bit less available whilst figuring him out.
I'd be concerned that you will either be dropped cos he's wanting to figure out his social life and moving away, or that you become everything, and every social option to him.
Both are extreme ends of the scale I'd not care to be part of.

OP you sound like you are about 15? Get a grip! Live your life!

The relationship sounds like it has quickly got very boring. You’ve only been dating a couple of months but he can’t even be bothered to go out with you. And he’s not sure he wants it to continue.

Go out with your friends on Friday.

Even if this were a long-term relationship, it’s perfectly healthy to put yourself first some of the time - any relationship should involve a balance between the couple’s needs. Anyone who has told you you should always put yourself second and the man first is wrong - all you’ll do is create a really selfish partner and a crappy relationship.

But you should end this anyway - it’s not going anywhere and he doesn’t treat you well.

You're just seeing him with no long term plan with him, do what you want whenever you want! but even in a relationship it's quite normal to see your own friends some of the time, don't make them your whole world or you'll feel empty when he's gone and that's looks quite likely from what you've said.