Court ordered contact, extra time?

[Bossiellio]

We're in the process of receiving a final order which will essentially be every other weekend and half of the holidays for DD5.

Ex is due to start having unsupervised contact from June onwards we have a schedule leading up to this.

February half term is coming up next week, I was wondering whether to offer some Time for contact? Its not within the Court order.

DD5 enjoys her contact with him but has never actually asked for extra time or tells me she misses him. She's very much used to not seeing him often...

I was just thinking it could be nice for her but I also don't want to make a rod for my own back by offering extra contact.

For context, he's highly abusive, I have very minimal contact with him via a parenting app. He has also never instigating asking for contact within the half term period..

Should I just leave it or offer?...

I would leave it. He’s abusive and isn’t currently allowed unsupervised contact. It doesn’t sound in her best interests to have extra time with him.

Don't poke a sleeping bear. Follow the court order.

Leave it; if you change what's in the court order you set a potentially dangerous precedent.

Leave it, he’s not interested is he? And why would you let her go for extra time with someone who is abusive

whats the betting when the time comes he won’t want EOW or half holidays!

I wouldn't.

If he's highly abusive I wouldn't want to be offering him any extra contact that you don't need to, that would make your version of events sound less believable if anything were to happen in the future.

No. He's abusive. He isn't asking and neither is she. So whose interests are you trying to serve?

Leave it and stick to court ordered contact.

You're all right. I guess I was just thinking of DD having fun last time but I definitely don't want to set a precedence that can be thrown back into my face.

You're all right. I guess I was just thinking of DD having fun last time but I definitely don't want to set a precedence that can be thrown back into my face.

You're all right. I guess I was just thinking of DD having fun last time but I definitely don't want to set a precedence that can be thrown back into my face.

Definitely don't offer more. Also keep a diary of times and dates for contact. If he is late or cancels keep a note. My exh tried to get more contact in the court order but he didn't turn up for at least half of what he had already. I produced it at court so he didn't get what he said he wanted. Oh and he was abusive too. Tread carefully.

Yes, I've noted things down from the last sessions.

I definitely won't be offering extra now I've thought it through. He could've asked too and he chose not to.