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Enjoy it ot end it?

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Itsamthing · 14/02/2024 06:48

Long story short, I've known a woman for 2 years, she's younger than me (25 & 40). I knew it would never work for several reasons,too much of an age gap, she wants kids, I cannot have children, being the main reasons. We are both well aware of these issues, as we became close emotionally quite soon after meeting, but I didn't think it was anything more than that.

In the last 5 or 6 months I had developed feelings for her because she's just great really, ticks all my boxes and drop dead gorgeous, without knowing it.

She made a drunken confession just after the new year and told me she loves me and has done for a long time. I got carried away and we slept together and began a relationship. Things are really good, but it's just always in the back of my mind that this isn't going to last because of the kids and age thing.

Do I end things knowing it's just going to be more difficult to do the further it goes down the line or try and just enjoy it for what it is right now.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 14/02/2024 06:57

I’d enjoy it for now, you both know it won’t last.

ZekeZeke · 14/02/2024 07:00

Enjoy it for what it is.
You have been upfront, she is walking into the relationship with her eyes wide open re children
So long as she is fully aware that children are off the cards and you are not looking for a serious relationship-what's the harm?

ZebraD · 14/02/2024 07:00

Why don’t you just talk to her instead of making the decision for her. You never know she might surprise you.

Itsamthing · 14/02/2024 08:12

ZebraD · 14/02/2024 07:00

Why don’t you just talk to her instead of making the decision for her. You never know she might surprise you.

Well, she did break it off after our chat about the future, and it was difficult, but we work near each other and kept running into each other and it was soon back to the way it was (also her decision). But it was hard for me, and when it happens again it will be harder.

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ZebraD · 14/02/2024 08:59

Well it sounds like it is an emotional rollercoaster…no one wants that. Call it a day.

yellowsmileyface · 14/02/2024 09:49

Itsamthing · 14/02/2024 08:12

Well, she did break it off after our chat about the future, and it was difficult, but we work near each other and kept running into each other and it was soon back to the way it was (also her decision). But it was hard for me, and when it happens again it will be harder.

So it sounds like the issues are dealbreakers for her, but she's currently in a place of thinking with her heart rather than her head.

She's still young now, but if she definitely wants kids, she doesn't really have the time to spare on a fun relationship with no future.

It may be fun now but you're just postponing the inevitable heartbreak which will hurt so much more the longer you pursue things. It sounds like the most sensible thing is to end it.

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