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datedate · 13/02/2024 20:10

I’ve been chatting to a very keen guy for a few weeks. He kept following up with his messages and being persistent - but in a nice way. I was kinda giving up on meeting someone but I went on a date with him as he seemed so nice. And wow it was an amazing first date. We just clicked. It was warm and natural. And the messages and voice notes have been great since then. He said he can’t wait to see me again. I feel the same. But now I’m second guessing - why is this guy so persistent and keen? I’ve been dating for a year and all the guys have been vague and disinterested- and probably chatting to lots of other women! Why does this guy like me? Is he a player? I can’t seem to enjoy dating anymore and I’m riddled with anxiety and on my guard for a player, abuser or married man.

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retinolalcohol · 14/02/2024 00:00

Depends what you mean by persistent and keen. Is he telling you that he's never felt this way before, discussing the future, things that are way too much too soon? If so, definite red flag for lovebombing and manipulation.

If not and it's just general chat he may just really like you. I've been on the apps for years and it's never really taken off for me - just started seeing someone recently and can't get enough of him! We communicate a lot about all sorts. I know there are certainly no bad intentions from my side!

Plenty of people here may say that a lot of communication is too much and borders on lovebombing but that's just how I am and always have been. If I like someone, I want to talk with them a lot.

Are you happy with how it's going? If so, go with it!

karrie92 · 14/02/2024 02:28

Well why wouldn’t he be keen? Maybe he just genuinely likes you

ThisIsaNiceDress · 14/02/2024 07:21

Give it a go but walk into it with your eyes wide open. And meet his friends and people from his circle reasonably soon, this will tell you a lot.

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