Trapped in a shit marriage

[Andthisiswhy]

Because I know if I leave, apart from the upset it will cause, he’ll have the kids at least some of the time and they’re too little. He doesn’t feed them, makes the older one wear pull ups, doesn’t brush their teeth, I could go on. I’m brimming with resentment right now.

You even now have a choice re this man. You need to plan your exit away from this awful sounding marriage and use a good firm of solicitors local to you to do so.

I think you would all be far better off without him in your day to day lives. He is causing way too many problems and upset now. Staying for the supposed sake of the children is a statement that often does not stand up at all when subjected to closer scrutiny.

If he is not really bothered or caring for them adequately now what makes you think he will have them at least some of the time during the week?. He could see them as interfering with his work and or social life. I would certainly look at formalising all contact he has with his children via a contact centre given how irresponsible he appears to be re them as well.