Long story short! Me and my cousin were the absolute best friends growing up - we did everything together and were so close. After I got married she started cancelling our plans to spend time with her friend 'A'. Whenever I suggested we did something together she would always say she was seeing 'A'. After many attempts I kept my distance and cut ties a bit as I thought 'if she wanted to she would'. I found out that my aunty AND uncle passed away via facebook, and the post was produced VERY quickly after their passing. I know she doesn't owe it to me to tell me but surely messaging family first before a facebook post would have been considerate? I'm now feeling incredibly anxious about the funeral as it is probably going to be really awkward (the last time I saw her she made small talk then scurried off without even saying bye). I have obviously sent her a message of condolences (she is out of the country atm) and had no response. what should I do?? :(