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OK so need some help with my friend.

12 replies

JingleyJen · 22/03/2008 21:35

She is lovely lovely lady who is suffering with depression.
She held an end of term coffee morning for all the mums from DS1's class and 6 out of 30 mums turned up
I know she was dissapointed especially as those who did go the earliest mum arrived an hour after her suggested start time.
The last day of term we had an event to go and watch in school and she was very teary and I asked if she was ok and she cried and said no.. did she want to talk.. no
so I backed off. I said I would call her, and for her to call me if there was anything I could do..
Well 2 of us in our group of friends have been trying to get hold of her since Thursday morning and she isn't answering her phone. She hasn't gone away for easter..

So after that long explaination I now have a question..

Do I call her again? Do I pop round? Do I wait for her to contact me?

She was already very low before the coffee morning thing and having been depressed myself I know how things that wouldn't be devastating for a non depressed person can be awful.

I don't think she will do anything silly but I do think that she will hide and get herself more and more wound up about it..

What do I do?

Please help..

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dizzychixies · 22/03/2008 21:37

can you think of a reason/excuse to pop round to make it as if you're not checking up on her?

DoodleToYou · 22/03/2008 21:37

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nailpolish · 22/03/2008 21:38

id go round
but thats just me
i wouldnt go in - id say i was calling round to invite her round, or even out, for a coffee/glass of wine or 2, next saturdy afternoon, toa really lovely cafe, without children

JingleyJen · 22/03/2008 21:40

thanks,

she doesn't have a mobile
I can't think of a reason to go without it seeming obvious..
Oh Yes I can.. I have just printed off DS1's birthday invitations, I could pop round with the one for her DS

Thnaks

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LynetteScavo · 22/03/2008 21:41

I'd go round with something pretending I'd been given a joblot and wanted to off load some of it... then invite her round for coffee?

captainmummy · 22/03/2008 21:41

Aren't you back at school on tuesday? Is it too long to wait until then?

FWIW - 6 out of 30 is not a bad size! I have posted on here before that I am the only SAHM I know now, so maybe lots of the others work? Or were rushed off their feet with easter (church maybe, clutching at straws here )

nailpolish · 22/03/2008 21:42

you dont need an excuse - tell her you are calling round to invite her out one afternoon - im sure shed appreciate your honesty

JingleyJen · 22/03/2008 21:44

no we are now on easter holidays and don't go back until 8th April

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JingleyJen · 22/03/2008 21:46

Will try to get her over next week

I don't mean to be melodromatic about it but I am worried about her.

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DoodleToYou · 22/03/2008 21:49

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JingleyJen · 22/03/2008 21:51

Brilliant Doodle... will do it first thing monday!

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Alambil · 22/03/2008 22:13

I don't think there's any harm in being honest about the reason for turning up - but be prepared for her to not let you in.

I think it'd be nice if you could some how let her know you've been through depression too - IME it is the lonliest feeling in the world.

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