How to unfriend a selfish frd

[gg12346]

I dont want to do it on face but in the long run I want to have no contact with this selfish frd I have .Whenever she needs us , She calls us anytime and we always help her .Recently for some silly application my husband was on phone with her for 3 hours just to explain her the details .Now , Yesterday I asked her to just help me around in my los birthday party she refused and said She cant help me since she will be tired after work .Really ? Also many times she has taken me for granted . What to do ? In reality I want to block her but cant do that since her husband is my husband are good frds .Please help

Time to suddenly be ‘busy’. Polite but delayed responses are my preferred method to make people to lose interest without any drama.

Don’t answer her calls immediately, just send a cordial follow-up text a few hours later to say you’re busy but wanted to check it wasn’t an emergency. Respond to texts the day after with friendly but benign messages that don’t particularly encourage conversation. Don’t be the first to reach out or get involved with anything she’s doing- maintain a distance.

Boring is best

@gg12346 ..

I totally get it

It's all one way her way.
She sounds like total. Piss taking User.
I know what it's,like to come across someone like thar too,

Slow fade by being constantly being thought of giving the impression of allmost constantly doing something or other being busy 🤔 or other until she gets disinterested with lack of interest in her,

If you occasionally or sometimes see her about, not sure if you will do,
It be arkward first few times
act like you have come across actiquience,
Just carry on acting like you are busy and just mention banalities trivil stuff as the weather is nice today or not,

frds lol. Thats a new shorthand for me.

Id just back away slowly, be less and less visible. Until hopefully she gets the hint.

I wouldn't 'unfriend' or 'block' her, but agree with becoming less available and visible. Adjust your expectations of her as well; don't ask her to help out with stuff.

Stop giving her the opportunity to use you. Apply the same excuses back and don’t help, she can find some other mug to help her for nothing in return. You deserve better friendships.

@gg12346

She has firm boundaries with you when she doesn't need you or your husband to do things for her. You are the "useful" sidekicks to help facilitate her life but she has no time or energy or, more, the inclination to help you when it's your turn.

I agree with other posters - be less available to her and less quick to answer her messages. She has a husband and. Possibly, other friends she can impose on if you are not available. Consider putting her number(s) as DND(do not disturb) on your mobile so her calls don't come through. She will not change, but maybe your interactions with her should. 🌹

I’d just be busy every time she asks you to do something & I’d be really slow replying to messages or just not reply hopefully she will get the hint. Then if she asks what she’s done wrong I’d tell her

I agree with everything said above and will add stop referring to her as a friend - she is a acquaintance who has shown you she will default to CF given half a chance, just top giving her the chance. Never answer her calls and keep your text replies short, don't overexplain your 'no', be slow/don't reply to subsequent texts questioning your no.

Yes be less available had this with flaky friends too. Its always what can we do for them!!