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I just need to vent as I am just wondering if this is total batshit behaviour.

In 2022 husband gave me silent treatment for 7 weeks and only ended when a relative of mine became gravely ill.

Last week Husband gave me silent treatment for rejecting a piece of advice I hadn't asked for. 5 days after first ignoring me he proceeds to bring down an a4 piece of paper listing all my flaws as a mother, wife and human.

Admittedly I have not been the most attentive wife as I have 2 young kids, run my own business and going through hell perimenopause, been but on HRT so been bleeding for a month as it settles in but this is fucking batshit isn't it.

I'm very very lucky to have a good dose of self love and am able to self regulate as some of my flaws according to DH are absolutely horrendously offensive

I've been on the receiving end of silent treatment and it's awful. But to have someone actually write a list of your flaws is just another level of emotionally immature. I, glad you have self love because that kind of behaviour is enough to tear away at you. With work and perimenapause you are obviously going through a lot, so think about yourself and put yourself first because your husband clearly isn't.

That's in no way normal. I would LTB ASAP. He sounds horrendous.

What a bastard.

You need to make your own list of his faults. Don't bother giving it to him though, just keep reading it over and over, and it will help give you the momentum and determination you need to leave.

I would be making an appointment to file for divorce immediately. This man has nothing but contempt for you. The marriage is over and should have been years ago.

Are you allowed to write a similar list and present it to him or are you afraid of his response ?

The men who dish out the silent treatment are usually the ones who are unable to communicate to a reasonable standard and can become aggresive.

Stay safe and get rid.