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For those of us who have been messed around/ghosted/ unceremoniously dumped

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MightAsWellBeGretel · 12/02/2024 19:24

How are you doing?

I've noticed a lot of these threads recently, mostly relating to people who've met through OLD - I started a thread myself about being breadcrumbed - how are you all feeling?

It's been a week and most of the time, I'm feeling much better, but I still sometimes still feel annoyed - both at myself and him. At him for obvious reasons: stringing me along, letting me down, leaving me wondering, then reeling me back in and at myself for falling for this shit. I'm also feeling hurt that someone would do this to me, and again I'm annoyed at myself, because I know it's his problem and he's not worthy of my emotion, but I can't help but feel undermined somehow and I really don't like it. I also keep ruminating of the fake version of himself that he presentated and feeling let down that this wasn't real at all.

It's all so pointless and stupid and it's making me dislike myself, and yet I can't fully let go of it all yet.

Anyone else?

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Purpleberet · 12/02/2024 22:57

Everything you said resonates with me. I’m not even looking for a relationship rn, just want to go out on some dates and see how things go. I think this behaviour has become so common especially on some of the dating apps. I think some people are just on for attention and an ego boost. It can be a bit demoralising. Same as you, sometimes I’m questioning myself overthinking what I should have done differently, then annoyed at myself cos I know truth is it’s not about us! I don’t have the answer I’m afraid I just try to keep busy doing other things 😆

MightAsWellBeGretel · 12/02/2024 23:28

Maybe this is just how things are now, which is a bit depressing. I'm not looking for anything heavy either, I also just want to date and see what happens so its not like I have huge expectations from anything, just not to be messed about!

Keeping busy us key, I think.

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