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What can I do??

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KirstyF2 · 12/02/2024 14:20

I'm hoping someone can help me please as I have no idea what to do next.

The house I own with my abusive ex is up for sale and currently getting no interest, it doesn't help that the same style of house is up for £25K less on our road.

He's still living there while I'm with family temporarily and I'm still paying half the mortgage.

I'm absolutely desperate to get out of the situation so I can use the money to rent somewhere of my own as I can't keep living where I am at the moment. I've offered to walk away with nothing so we can lower the house price for a quick sale and he'd still get all his money. I've also offered to move in the house and then if he moves out I'll cover all the mortgage so he can rent somewhere.

He's being awkward about both options - currently he has it all - living independently while I'm paying towards the mortgage , I'm still helping care for our dog so he's getting help with that.

I've said I can't afford to rent and pay my half of the mortgage still - his solution is me moving back in. I can't go back to living with him - I was physically and mentally abused.

I feel so trapped - I've sought legal advice and they've pretty much said I'm stuck.

OP posts:
notknowledgeable · 12/02/2024 14:22

Dont walk away with nothing!

rainydaysandwednesdays · 12/02/2024 14:27

Don't move back in and don't walk away with nothing.

If I were you I'd stay put with family until the house sells. It will sell eventually.

I can see why you want to end this period of your life but hang on, brighter times are coming for you x

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