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georgiamae98 · 11/02/2024 21:48

I've been with my partner 6 years and we have a wonderful 4 year old together. Last year we had a small "separation" since he moved back in the family home it has been like 2 people living together no relationship. There is always a sense of unhappiness. I have tried and I do love him but I just don't feel like I am in love with him.
He insists he loves me to bits and wants nothing more than it to work out between up but we have been through a lot together and I still have a lot of bitterness towards him from the past.
We have talked tonight as he said he is fed up of me. I went out for a while and I think he has thought about what he has said and backtracked on it asking me to stay for one more month and if things don't work I can walk away. But I am not strong enough to do that. I know I'm not. I need some advice as the past relationship has been very manipulative and controlling and he admits to that being due to an alcohol problem. However, to me he is still unhappy with me being me.

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KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 11/02/2024 22:21

What was the reason for the separation? From what you’ve said about manipulation and him not happy for you to be you, I am guessing the separation was related?

Sounds like the relationship has run its course. If nothing has changed since he moved back in and then he announces he’s fed up of you, I think it’s time to call it a day.

Why would you carry on?

georgiamae98 · 11/02/2024 22:31

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 11/02/2024 22:21

What was the reason for the separation? From what you’ve said about manipulation and him not happy for you to be you, I am guessing the separation was related?

Sounds like the relationship has run its course. If nothing has changed since he moved back in and then he announces he’s fed up of you, I think it’s time to call it a day.

Why would you carry on?

We couldn't get on, there was no help from him with anything and he was drinking a lot and hiding it and lying about it. One night it just all came to a head and he moved out for a short while as I asked for space and said I couldn't do it anymore. I use the term separated lightly as he was constantly at the house and still controlled what I could do etc

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