I feel quite proud of myself today. Long story short I stayed “friends “ with ex and we go for meals together etc. we had some time apart and he got back in touch in November. Spent a lot of time over the Christmas holidays going for walks/food. Come January he obviously isn’t as bored and probably messages no more than a sentence to me in weeks. We are due to go to a prebooked show this week and I’ve told him in no uncertain terms it is on a purely platonic basis by. Tbh I may not even go.
I’ve always worried about saying the wrong thing as he goes in a mood but I don’t actually care.