Husband wants sex talk

[Mabris]

So a few weeks ago, I decided to spice things up and spoke dirty to DH. My goodness, he became so aroused instantly and what followed was amazing. Unfortunately it seems I've opened a can of warms. He now requests that I talk dirty to him every time we are intimate. DH is 60 and I'm 44, together for 12 years. He's never had any issues having an erection but i find over the last 2 weeks, he only gets an erection once i talk dirty to him. I just want things to go back to the way they were. I feel uncomfortable talking dirty, it was a spur of the moment thing initially. Please help, how can I stop this and revert our sex life to the way it was?

Talk to him about it?

Personally I'd use it as a torture device on my husband but then, it doesn't bother me and I love how frisky it makes him.

Yes, definitely talk to him about it. Clearly you've discovered something which is a huge turn on for him. Which would be great if you're both happy with it. But it sounds like it's very suddenly become a major route to excitement for him which is understandably alarming for you if he's hoping that you're going to do this every time you have sex.

It's only been a couple of weeks. Things might settle down. Would you be happy to do this occasionally for your DH while making clear it's not something you'd want to do regularly? Or is it something you'd never want to do again? In which case he'll need to accept and respect that.

If he is a good husband to you I would find a way to get comfortable with it (it shouldn't be that hard since you already did it off your own back at least once) and keep having amazing sex with him. It's win win.

Just say on reflection you aren’t comfortable doing it.