Getting over a person

[karrie92]

This probably has been asked a lot of times, but I’m struggling with it, how do you genuinely get over heartbreak? How do you get over that person leaving you after you did so much for them, helped them
out financially etc, how do you stop think, who did they leave me for etc, I know it sound silly

Following as I’m interested too. Usual advice is keep busy, make plans with friends, do hobbies, spend time in nature, journal etc. I’m sure that works for some people but so far not for me

Time really. I wouldn't jump into another relationship (not fair on the new person). I'd take time to reflect, do stuff for myself. But it takes time - I don't think you can rush the process.

I'm in this boat too. I've started a couple of classes and am just trying to keep busy.

I think it's just going to take time, but distracting myself is giving me a sense of acheiv3m3nt at least.
Hugs to you, its an awful time isn't it.

From my own experience I would say that time is a massive healer. Also having space to think and process it all helps and probably having some time alone. I found it to be like a grieving process but 15 months in and I feel great. I didn't think I'd get to the place I'm at but I can finally say I have found peace and fully understand and accept why we weren't right for each other. I think it also does make a difference on how your break up happened.

There is no magic bullet apart from time. Allow yourself to grieve, cry etc and eventually life will move on

Thank you everyone, the thing is this is a person from years ago who I thought I had gotten over. I’ve had a relationship since we broke up,I’m no longer with my current partner. But recently I was like I never really got over this person, but I guess with time I will eventually

There's a very old saying "The best way to get over a man, is to get under another one".

I was the same. To be perfectly honest it took years. I had accepted that it was right that we weren't together, and I obviously was no longer loved, but I really missed the time that we were happy together which was quite a few years. I had counselling but I still grieved for a long time.
I honestly don't know the answer. Hopefully you'll find a new relationship that's good enough to fill your life, so that there's no longer space for missing your old one.

I think sometimes we were rose tinted glasses looking back on a relationship and seem to idealise the good times and sweet things and miss those bits dearly. It seems easier to forget the things that weren't so good, especially later on it seems, and only remember the good parts, and that is what makes it so hard after a time has passed and you still ruminate on those happy memories.
Try to remind yourself of the bad times and the things that weren't good and about how he hurt you. He wasn't perfect I'm sure, and there was a reason why things didn't work out. Try to remember those to make peace with it having ended.