I need some dating advice

[Lilllypad11]

I’ve been on 3 dates with a guy. Sorta like him. He’s in the medical profession. Can work from 7-7. He’s an awful texter. I enjoyed the 3 dates. But I’m not used to such a bad texter.

It’s been a while since I split up with my ex. And he used to be a regular texter. Not all the time. Just steady through the day. This guy I’ve gone on dates with can go long periods so I texted him at 7 last night. Heard back at 9 tonight. admittedly I’m not great either but that’s because work keeps me busy.

The only reason I mention it is because I suffer with anxiety and self confidence issues plus I’m weening off my antidepressants that I took after my break up. He said he’s trrrible at texting from the get go. The alternative was to call but with my job. I can’t call. And at night. I haven’t got much to give convo wise bc I’m too tired.

Do I mention it. Do I just leave it and not say a word?

Be gentle on me I know I could sound pedantic but it’s just the anxiety. And yes I have therapy.

Help?

How is the texting when he isn’t at work? I’m in the medical profession and work 7-7 shifts also… but I work 3/4 days a week.

granted it can be busy, it can be tiring after work but if I really liked the guy I wanted to date I would try to send a quick text whenever I could! I get he might be busy but is he reallllyyyyyy that busy for a quick text message?

I have an extremely busy job. I do not have time for messaging in the day at all. Don't take it personally. If he is crap outside of work too that is different.

That’s my point. I think he’s away this weekend of some kind of conference so granted I imaging it won’t be too great. But I’m coming to a point I may have to bin it off because it just seems like his communication is too poor. Which is a shame. I quite liked him.

Really, we can't tell. He could just genuinely not like texting or it could be that he's not that into you.
Does he always take that long to respond?
I know if I read a message and don't respond immediately, then I usually forget so it can easily be a few days later.

But I don't imagine that would be the case with a new love interest!

You've been on 3 dates. Over what time period?

He's already told you that he's rubbish at texting so it's either genuine or a get out clause. I would leave it and see how the relationship progresses.
How keen is he to see you again, does he text more frequently in his days off, how he is with you when you meet up are all things to consider.

It's a minefield, isn't it, don't text too much or too little, in my experience in dating, the both extremes haven't worked for me maybe he's worth seeing seeing again if he seems enthusiastic about seeing you but if communication doesn't improve then he can't be that serious about developing a new relationship with you. Something will have to change if you both want it to, he starts messaging a bit more, you find the energy to call, if the lack of desire is there it will just fizzle.