Fake name after first date

[Ash2345f]

So I met this guy on Facebook dating we matched went for a date it was a really good first meet however that night not long after the date he told me his name wasn’t what it was on the dating site this freaked me out a little and i didn’t respond- anyway the next day he made contact with me again and we met up so he could go through it basically said he didn’t want people adding him on Facebook so he uses that name as a stage name he’s an actor so used that name to use Facebook for marketplace I now know his full name have seen his insta etc is this a red flag??? Should I still see him advice please I am getting conflicting from friends

He said he wanted to tell me during the date but couldn’t find the right time as convo was flowing and he didn’t want it to be weird **

I think the fact he told you so quickly after the date and explained why makes it ok. I’d give him a chance over another date or two if you like him.

It seems reasonable. I would let it pass but if anything else fishy happens don't forget

Agree, one more chance however, one more strike and bin !

I don't have my real name on FB, never did . As a result any other features I use don't have my real name either.

Teachers,for example, are strongly encouraged to do this so pupils and parents can't find them and add them/have a nosey look.

I don’t have my real name on any social media.

Okay this is reassuring - I mean on the night he didn’t come straight out with it, he said right you’ve got three guesses and you get a prize if you guess correct it begins with said letter (he is quite a funny character & he said he was trying to not make it weird) - obviously when I didn’t respond to that he added me of his actual Snapchat account the following day which had his actual name on which he then confirmed etc and obviously went into further depth when we met up

Could be something, could be nothing.

I used a fake name on the dating sites when I was on them, so my now DP thought I was called something else when we first met. As soon as I knew it was something long term I told him my real name. He wasn't fussed.

Not particularly weird. I have friends who don't use their real name on dating profiles as it makes them feel safer.

Also, acting is a job that might potentially make you well known, at least within the industry. Can you imagine the embarrassment of people googling your name in the future and finding an old dating profile!

I have a few teacher friends and a couple of police officers on Facebook and none of them use their real name. It’s not a completely fabricated name, but it’s nicknames, maiden names, using middles names etc.

I don't use my real name on dating sites. Even on Facebook, for a long time I had a different but similar name for professional reasons.

Usually I tell anyone I am talking to after the first few messages, but it has happened that I've got caught up on conversation and forgotten to tell them until just before we meet. I haven't got to the stage of having a date and not having told them, but it could easily slip my mind if we decided to meet quickly.

I also have a friend who is an actor and who has her stage name even on WhatsApp

He has explained and he met to talk it through when he realised you were thrown by it, he sounds nice. Give him a chance!

I wouldn't have the patience to deal with THAT bullshit , so I wouldn't like it. But a different name in itself is not a red flag. My partner of 14 years still calls by my old nickname/the name my SM is in.

It depends. Were you addressing him by his fake name on the date before he corrected you? I’m all for total honesty from the start so not being honest about something as basic as his name would bother me in the same way as knocking a few years off his are or adding inches to his height would.

The guessing game would actually really put me off as I’d find that as cringey as hell but we are all different in what we like/dislike.

It depends I guess, I don’t have my full name on social media either.
He was very honest with you as soon as the date was over and you now have him on social media so I imagine he is being genuine and isn’t hiding a relationship etc

I have an unusual first name, so often change my name when I’ve done OLD

Lots of people on my Facebook don't use their regular name but most of those people are teachers/TAs and don't want people having a nosey at their profile!
Missing the point entirely but is he a famous actor?!

No red flag at all.

With my name and location (which I do give out as I only want local dates) you can find absolutely everything out about me on google, because if my hobby and my job.

In fact, it should be advised!

When I did online datng, I used the name Alice, amongst others, on my profile. I didn't reveal my real name until I'd met them and knew I wanted to see them again.

I don't think anyone queried it.

I was deliberately vague with my location too.

I'd say the fact he was honest so soon means it's fine. It wouldn't even occur to me to question it tbh.

I used a fake name on OLD. DH called me that for the first date and even said the name didn’t suit me 😂 I eventually told him my actual name the next day!

I wouldn’t be worried if they told me quickly after a decent first date. I’d do it myself.

I don’t have my real name, or anything similar too it anywhere online. Its very common, try not to let it panic you too much.

why would you use your real name? That's really dangerous. Fake name all the way.

I have an actor friend, and he does not use his stage name on social media at all.