Married, no kids, together over a decade.
positives: does his fair share around the house, contributes a lot to bills (he earns a lot more) and is smart and not lazy. He has no annoying habits.
Negatives: I am not a priority, his job comes first, then his football team. I have seen him half a day in 3 weeks. I previously considered separating when I was on a long garden leave and he didn’t think of spending a single day with me. Last year I said I was unhappy and asked for counselling, he said no and that I should ‘give my head a wobble’. He knows I need some kissing / cuddling but does not give it to me (outside of sex). I told him I loved him but wasn’t in love with him and he finally agreed to online counselling but spent the session on his phone. He has since said I need to change my perspective to appreciate all he does around the house vs him changing as I’m lucky because ‘most guys expect to just relax at weekends or go down the pub’. He also has periodic anger issues but has never hit me.
i have a full time job and am not financially dependent on him. I don’t want to quit a marriage but I find it difficult to stay when I feel this way. What would you do?