What would you do.. honest

[Tiredmumclub24]

Been in a relationship 15 years, two kids, one with special needs.

Right now my relationship feels like this, we wake up, we sleep.

He doesn't go near me sexually, I caught him looking at porn several times, he has loads of weird women friend requesting on Instagram (yup American big busted things)

To top it off I have a lump..I've asked for him to have the kids as ones Ill while I go to the Dr. His reply is can't you take him to my sister's..ie he doesn't want to help as at work. Now he's saying he'll pick em up and take to his sister!!

I mean if this was your partner wouldn't you do anything for them? 😞 I don't ever ask for anything, I guess that's the point

Yes 100% right, sounds like stuck in a rut sexually, but that irrelevant compared to a lump, only
viable excuse is hes scared and is deflecting but not helpful for you

Sorry to hear about your lump. You must be worried sick. Yes agree, he should be stepping up at this time, or at least saying, let’s ask sister if she can have child so he can come with you. Sending a virtual hug

I'm really shocked by his response OP. He should be supporting you at a time like this. I hope everything is ok, but even if it is I would find this hard to get past.

I would do whatever I wanted to, whenever I could, to make myself feel better, and without giving any concern to his feelings.

What do you want to do? What do you wish you could do, and how close can you get to that?

Life is too short to settle for being unhappy. If you think you want to stay in the relationship you need to get talking honestly about the state of it and what you can both do to fix it. Therapy, joint and separate, him stepping up as a parent, making time for the two of you as a couple.
If you think life would be better off separated, get your finances in order, contact women’s charities for advice and speak to a solicitor.
good luck with the lump xx