I always knew my partner liked a drink, but I was desperate for love and a relationship so I overseen this major flaw at the time . When we started dating I told him he was an idiot when he drank , he then started drinking before I came over and hid the cans. I even found an empty bottle of brandy in his bathroom one night.
I fell pregnant a few months into the relationship. He continued drinking but was miserable in his new job, I was to blame for him moving jobs so I felt I could not argue this.
The week I was due to give birth he continued to drink and claimed he would snap out of it if I went in to early labour.
The night we brought our son home he bought a celebratory bottle and drank it the next few nights.
He invited his other son over to stay the night a few times without checking if I was ready for this with a newborn and got extremely drunk every time. He gets vile and rude with a drink and is useless.
He has massively cut down his drinking 'for me'. But at xmas time he got drunk through the day and next day apologised claiming he hated the way he was and wouldn't blame me for leaving and said he would quit. He did.... for a month.... and then the other day he slept in the living room , I seen a bottle in the bin and the air stank. I questioned him, he said rubbish , then said he had a drink but was quitting again. No care given. I don't even know why I am posting , I know he will never change. My son is not even 1 and I have zero friends to turn to.
We are engaged and I can see no future, just a repeat of this same behaviour over and over. I want another baby but cant imagine going through this again with him, with the lack of support. But how would I ever find anyone else now as a single mum.