Growing apart

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Hi,
My partner and I have been together for 10 years. We have been through a lot - my serious illness at the beginning of our relationship, moving to another country, several job losses, two miscarriages, health issues, one financial crisis after another, my anxiety disorder and depression, and his depression and many other things. I quit my job in December because of my mental health and burnout. Just after I left work, our car and both computers broke down within two months. The situations are both comical and desperate at the same time. However, lately with all the stress, I feel like we are growing apart. It seems like everything we do together is just trying to solve one problem or another. I love that man and I miss seeing him happy. I know he misses me being happy too. I'm afraid that if nothing changes, we will drift away from each other.

It's sad when this happens, but it does happen in life. We are always growing and changing and sometimes we grow out of relationships.

It might be worth taking some time apart to evalute your feelings.
Do you want to work on your relationship or do you want to leave?

I love and appreciate my partner, and I don't want to break up with him. We have faced many challenges together, and they have made us stronger as a couple, but I also feel that we have neglected each other in the process. At the moment, our relationship seems to be only about solving problems, not enjoying each other's company.

Sorry to hear you both are having such a difficult time!
I think when it comes to life parters as equally important as love, is finding a team mate you can problem solve and go through the hard times with. Sounds like you two have that spades so would be a shame to end things without trying.
Have you spoken to him about this? Sounds like you could do with a break from the turmoil and reconnecting, maybe planning a few date day/nights?