Feel like partner isn’t supportive

[Pringle881]

We are 18 months into a relationship. I am struggling with PMDD, I have recently been diagnosed and have been trying to explain how it affects me. I don’t feel like myself for basically 2 weeks of the month and it takes a while to get back on track. I’ve tried sending links etc but all I get back is I’m not trying hard enough, it should be fun and sexy at the moment?
Is there any point carrying on? Is he right and it should still be all light and fun at the moment and I shouldn’t have even tried to speak to him about this and how it affects me?

Maybe it should be all light and fun, but it ISN'T is it? You aren't well and it sounds as though he's making it worse. Let him go. There's plenty more 🐠 fish!

If he can’t be bothered to read up on a health condition you’ve been diagnosed with m then the relationship is no good, in my opinion. I realised this in my last relationship when I read up his health problem but he had no interest in reading up on endometriosis when I was diagnosed with it. Having to explain it to him was just yet another thing I had to take responsibility for and it highlighted to me how selfish he was.

Expecting you to just be fun and sexy at 18 months in is unrealistic and fucking stupid, frankly. You’re a real, actual person, not a fantasy there to meet his needs.

And I’m sorry you’ve been diagnosed with this. I have it too. It got a lot easier to manage after I got rid of the boyfriend.

So you’ve been diagnosed with a debilitating health condition and he’s pissed off that while you’re feeling like shit that you’re not fun and sexy enough for him?

Fuck that - he’s another in the long line of MN self absorbed selfish dickheads who think the world should resolve around them.